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    Question children and masturbation...

    Imagine that your a parent of a pre-pubescent child, and you leave them in their room to play and walk in to check on them and to your shock, you find them more or less masturbating, this could be a 4 yo. or could be a 8 yo.....either way it's still a child that has not hit puberty yet...how do you feel about this?...would you scold them or tell them it was fine as long as they did it in the privacy of their room?

    I am curious to know, I was one of those children that had no outside sexual influence, I didn't stumble upon porno mags....but I started masturbating at age 4...and I remember doing that one time in front of my mom because I didn't know any better because I was only 4, and she yelled at me and scolded me for it, from that moment on, I only did it in my room when she wasn't around., I would do it often....and I honestly do not know what can cause a prepubescent child to get sexual urges at such a young age, but it could have something to do with the fact that I am a highly sexual person....what are your thoughts?

    Personally, I find nothing wrong with it, as long as it is done in private, behind closed doors...


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    Re: children and masturbation...

    Your mom over reacted, and she only made you feel guilty of a very natural thing actually. If you need more information, here is a source explaining it in detail...

    It has more benefits. There are also a few myths about it of course...

    Masturbation in young children
    Boys generally start masturbating at an earlier age than girls, since the clitoris and vagina are harder to find than the penis. Studies show that the way in which parents react to their child’s masturbation impacts on the child’s sexual attitudes and behaviours in adult life. Suggestions for parents include:
    Young children masturbate for various reasons, including curiosity, exploration and sensory pleasure.
    Reassure yourself that masturbation in young children is normal. It is not a sign of sexual deviancy.
    Focus on the setting, rather than the activity itself. For example, if your child is masturbating in public, tell them that what they’re doing is fine if they do it in private, much like toileting and picking one’s nose are private activities.
    Young children may turn to masturbation in times of stress. If your child is masturbating to the point where playtime and other activities are curtailed, you need to find out what is making them anxious and upset.
    If you are concerned about your child’s masturbatory practices, consult with your doctor or paediatrician.

    Health benefits
    Some of the known health benefits of masturbation include:
    Eases some of the symptoms of premenstrual syndrome
    Relief from menstrual cramps
    Muscle relaxation
    Helps you to fall asleep
    Promotes release of the brain’s opioid-like neurotransmitters (endorphins), which cause feelings of physical and mental wellbeing
    Reduces stress
    Enhances self-esteem.

    Myths about masturbation
    Masturbation has been wrongly blamed for a host of human ills, including:

    Blindness
    Feeblemindedness
    Madness
    Physical decrepitude
    Sexual perversion
    Reduced sexual function
    Neurotic disorders.


    Masturbation-Better Health Channel

    To do it in your room where you have privacy, is the better option. Children who does this, must not be screamed at, but just explained that they need to do it when nobody is around to walk in on them. Many times parents can just worsen the feelings of guilt by doing what your mom did.
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    Re: children and masturbation...

    4 is not an abnormal stage to masturbate, in fact in may have been happening much sooner, you were too young to realize you did it..Or your mother had not scared you into remembering it.
    Most early childhood masturbation is not sexual, it is a form of relaxation and dealing with stress. It is a form of self-soothing. Unless you were sexually abused or exposed to sexually explicit activities or material, it is unlikely you were masturbating for any other reason than exploration and the happy relaxing feelings it gave you.
    I have worked in Early childcare for 12 + years,and I am never shocked when I see young children/ and even babies involves in some serious form of genital play.

    http://www.pep-web.org/document.php?id=psc.006.0117a
    Pediatric Observations on Masturbation in Children
    Milton I. Levine, M.D.
    No person can long remain in the practice of pediatrics without observing the genital play and masturbation of infants and children, and without being deeply impressed by the extreme importance placed upon this activity not only by parents, but also by relatives, religious educators, and even by physicians themselves.
    In the course of his daily practice, the pediatrician is able to observe the activities of children while in his office and during the periods when visited at home. It is also possible for him to observe the attitude of parents when the child handles his genitals. And occasionally, parents, disturbed by the masturbatory activities of their children, present their anxieties to the pediatrician.





    The male childThe issue of childhood sexuality is controversial, and one which makes many people uncomfortable. But, although childhood sexuality is very different to that of the mature adult, there is little doubt that humans are sexual beings from birth, and even before: boy babies can have erections while still in utero, and some boys are born with an erection. Toddlers, and even babies as young as three to five months old might touch their genitals. Parents can be assured that this activity is quite normal, and that the child finds it soothing and relaxing. Pre-school boys are curious about their bodies, and are interested in and aware of gender differences, such as male and female genitals and how boys and girls urinate. They may mimic adult social and sexual behaviours, such as holding hands and kissing. Boys of this age may role-play or talk about being married or having a partner. It is not uncommon for young children to touch or play with their genitals or to play games, such as “doctor” that include sexual exploration. This is a natural way for children to explore their bodies, and boys may experience orgasm from masturbation although they will not ejaculate until puberty. Generally by the age of about five or six, become more aware of social restrictions on sexual expression, and develop a sense of privacy.
    Puberty, the set of physiological changes that results in physical sexual maturity, begins between age 10 and 14 in boys. The testicles and penis get bigger, pubic body and facial hair grows, the voice deepens, and secretions from the oil and sweat glands increase. There is also a general growth spurt. Erections increase in frequency, and first ejaculation typically occurs between ages 11 and 15.
    The ability to produce sperm may take another year or two. These changes are accompanied by a surge of interest in sex. During this period, boys gain further experience with masturbation: about half of all boys have masturbated to orgasm by age 13. Because preadolescents tend to spend time mainly with others of their own sex, it is not uncommon for early sexual exploration to occur with other boys. By age 12 or 13, some boys will have started dating and "making out" with girls, but overt sexual activity with the opposite sex is still unusual.

    http://health.mweb.co.za/sex/Sexuali...-2470-2477.asp

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    Re: children and masturbation...

    My son masterbates in the bathtub almost every night he's here. He's not shy about it either. If Hyde and I are talking too loud in the living room, he'll yell out...

    "MOM, CAN YOU TWO BE QUIET! I CAN'T CONCENTRATE!"



    I was terrified at first learning about this...and it seemed as though it was becoming an obsession with him but I've noticed he doesn't do it as much as he did last year. WHEW!

    Anyway, my son is 11 years old...he seemed to have started when he was 9 or 10.

    Hyde keeps wanting me to tell him "You keep doing it, you're going to go blind." *heavy sigh*
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    Re: children and masturbation...

    I remember the feelings it gave me, and it was very much sexual...I masturbate the same way now as I did 18 years ago, it gave me the same feelings that I get now, except not nearly as strong....I'm very surprised by the reaction of the people that responded, it is a very touchy subject and makes allot of people uncomfortable discussing it....and I would have thought that allot of people would disagree , and that it is harmful..or immoral or something like that...I think more parents should be educated about talking to their children about things like this, it would be better than getting yelled at and thinking it's a bad thing to do until your an adult....could also explain it as an alternative to sex...

    Which makes me want to ask something else, why is it illegal for a minor to possess adult toys?...if it helps keep them from going out and catching a disease or getting pregnant, than why not?....


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    Re: children and masturbation...

    A minor with sex toys.....a boy only needs one sex toy, the one he plays with. As fertile an imagination as a young boy has I'd be willing to bet they don't need any "tools'......outside of perhaps lotion. Also, what constitutes a sex toy? I recently read a story about a guy that had to go to the ER because he thought a vacuum cleaner was a sex toy.
    I was allowed to view porn since I could read at all. After a few years I realized there really isn't anything new and tired of it. I can imagine some parent spending big bucks for a "doll" (or something similar) only for the child to lose interest in it after a few time of playing with it.
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    Re: children and masturbation...

    well a doll is a bit expensive, they do have cheaper, better things....you can pick up vibrators at spencers for under $15...thats how i got my first one before i even turned 18 lol....they didn't even ask for i.d.....


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